Comments on: Why fat people (after 30) deserve to be judged http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged Fri, 10 Feb 2012 02:43:29 +0000 hourly 1 By: Fouberto http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-119339 Fouberto Mon, 26 Dec 2011 21:39:57 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-119339 Well, its an interesting blog post. I do feel overweight people often have genetic factors that make it much harder for them to lose weight. I myself have always been on the thinner side of things, but I appreciate that someone with different genes would have a harder time to maintain a weight that I maintain easily. I do not think your weight reflects your intelligence or capabilities. I don't entirely disagree that if someone is very motivated and a go-getter, they probably will be better at reaching a healthy body weight, even if they have genes that make it harder. I think being understanding is important. Its probably a balance between being understanding of the challenges overweight people face while also accepting that there is an element of self-discipline and being motivated and intelligent enought to navigate the weight loss process efficiently. But, that being sad, please don't be mean or look down on overweight people, that's just cruel, isn't that obvious to everyone ?! Well, its an interesting blog post. I do feel overweight people often have genetic factors that make it much harder for them to lose weight. I myself have always been on the thinner side of things, but I appreciate that someone with different genes would have a harder time to maintain a weight that I maintain easily.

I do not think your weight reflects your intelligence or capabilities. I don’t entirely disagree that if someone is very motivated and a go-getter, they probably will be better at reaching a healthy body weight, even if they have genes that make it harder.

I think being understanding is important. Its probably a balance between being understanding of the challenges overweight people face while also accepting that there is an element of self-discipline and being motivated and intelligent enought to navigate the weight loss process efficiently.

But, that being sad, please don’t be mean or look down on overweight people, that’s just cruel, isn’t that obvious to everyone ?!

]]> By: Used to be fat http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-101746 Used to be fat Fri, 24 Jun 2011 04:46:25 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-101746 Anyone who has been through what is like to be fat in a world that has an automatic search response "fat people should die" writes such a blog about judging other people? Did you forget what it feels like? I agree with you no one is really happy with being fat and anyone who says so is trying desperately to be accepted or at least not hated/judge on every single thing they do. The thing is it takes people time to make that realisation of when enough is enough. Who are you to decide when the cut of point is for them to understand what it takes to change? My issue was completely emotional. I had certain problems that led me to compulsively over eat instead of dealing with them. Some people drink, smoke, gamble, shop, have affairs, cut, pull hair...I could go on but you get the picture. Most people have vices. When my doctor stopped judging me and ranting at me and actually suggested counselling (which I paid for with my job that I managed to do despite my weight *gasp*) I managed to concur the reasons behind my eating and I lost weight. I lost a lot of weight. At first I used dieting and exercise excessively (not many people judged me then I can tell you) but after some more counselling I found a healthy balance and a healthy weight. I still do my job well, although I actually acknowledge that now as I've learnt to reward myself with that instead of food but my awareness hasn't changed. My intelligence hasn't changed. All that has changed is that I'm better at dealing with my emotions. I will add though, just because I'm not fat anymore doesn't mean I can judge anyone else for being fat. I don't. I won't. I never will because I can never know what is going through their mind just by looking at them. Just like the people who didn’t know what happened in my life to make me give up on anything but the comfort that food gave me. I guess the same people that judge fat people judge alcoholics, and drug addicts etc. It is easy to judge someone laying openly in the gutter for us all to see but no one but that person knows why they chose to escape in the first place. Maybe if can't understand it, we are lucky to have never been in a situation where we felt we had no other options. Anyone who has been through what is like to be fat in a world that has an automatic search response “fat people should die” writes such a blog about judging other people? Did you forget what it feels like? I agree with you no one is really happy with being fat and anyone who says so is trying desperately to be accepted or at least not hated/judge on every single thing they do. The thing is it takes people time to make that realisation of when enough is enough. Who are you to decide when the cut of point is for them to understand what it takes to change?
My issue was completely emotional. I had certain problems that led me to compulsively over eat instead of dealing with them. Some people drink, smoke, gamble, shop, have affairs, cut, pull hair…I could go on but you get the picture. Most people have vices. When my doctor stopped judging me and ranting at me and actually suggested counselling (which I paid for with my job that I managed to do despite my weight *gasp*) I managed to concur the reasons behind my eating and I lost weight. I lost a lot of weight. At first I used dieting and exercise excessively (not many people judged me then I can tell you) but after some more counselling I found a healthy balance and a healthy weight. I still do my job well, although I actually acknowledge that now as I’ve learnt to reward myself with that instead of food but my awareness hasn’t changed. My intelligence hasn’t changed. All that has changed is that I’m better at dealing with my emotions.
I will add though, just because I’m not fat anymore doesn’t mean I can judge anyone else for being fat. I don’t. I won’t. I never will because I can never know what is going through their mind just by looking at them. Just like the people who didn’t know what happened in my life to make me give up on anything but the comfort that food gave me. I guess the same people that judge fat people judge alcoholics, and drug addicts etc. It is easy to judge someone laying openly in the gutter for us all to see but no one but that person knows why they chose to escape in the first place. Maybe if can’t understand it, we are lucky to have never been in a situation where we felt we had no other options.

]]> By: Dan http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-99746 Dan Wed, 25 May 2011 09:28:40 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-99746 100kgs? That's disgusting, you fat disgusting slob. You deserve every flame comment you get in here. Insults from UK. 100kgs? That’s disgusting, you fat disgusting slob. You deserve every flame comment you get in here.

Insults from UK.

]]> By: Penny http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-98254 Penny Thu, 28 Apr 2011 06:15:00 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-98254 Fat people may be undisciplined, yet are definitely aware of how others perceive them. Six months ago I became very attracted to a co-worker who is physically fit and ambitious, and suddenly I was appalled by what he must think of my looks. I have a reputation for being a great worker, but knew that FAT must be the first word to come to mind whenever he saw me. That was the last straw; some latent self-discipline kicked in and I ditched 50 lbs. in five months. Everyone has been wonderfully supportive. It's amazing the way people's interactions with you can change after major weight loss. Maybe it's superficial, but it is reality, and I am a whole lot happier and more confident now. Fat people may be undisciplined, yet are definitely aware of how others perceive them. Six months ago I became very attracted to a co-worker who is physically fit and ambitious, and suddenly I was appalled by what he must think of my looks. I have a reputation for being a great worker, but knew that FAT must be the first word to come to mind whenever he saw me. That was the last straw; some latent self-discipline kicked in and I ditched 50 lbs. in five months. Everyone has been wonderfully supportive. It’s amazing the way people’s interactions with you can change after major weight loss. Maybe it’s superficial, but it is reality, and I am a whole lot happier and more confident now.

]]> By: talker http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-98177 talker Tue, 26 Apr 2011 00:40:56 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-98177 Body weight is an indication of evolutionary and economic growth. I refuse to apologize for living in a country where people don't starve, and I refuse to feel bad that I weigh the same as 72% of my fellow countrymen. You, ma'am, are a dumbass troll, and not even a good one at that. Please educate yourself; for a start, watch Penn & Teller's Bullshit! Season 5, Episode 1: Obesity, then read the books they reference. Body weight is an indication of evolutionary and economic growth. I refuse to apologize for living in a country where people don’t starve, and I refuse to feel bad that I weigh the same as 72% of my fellow countrymen.

You, ma’am, are a dumbass troll, and not even a good one at that. Please educate yourself; for a start, watch Penn & Teller’s Bullshit! Season 5, Episode 1: Obesity, then read the books they reference.

]]> By: Bird http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-97960 Bird Wed, 20 Apr 2011 22:42:29 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-97960 Great job trolling, Jennifer! But I'm afraid you're wrong. Body size has nothing to do with intelligence. Stop judging. You're over 30, now grow up. Great job trolling, Jennifer! But I’m afraid you’re wrong. Body size has nothing to do with intelligence. Stop judging. You’re over 30, now grow up.

]]> By: Kim http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-97898 Kim Tue, 19 Apr 2011 06:25:37 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-97898 Well said! Well said!

]]> By: Dalyn http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-86076 Dalyn Fri, 13 Aug 2010 14:04:50 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-86076 How about people being booted out of plane seats for overweight teens? How about people being booted out of plane seats for overweight teens?

]]> By: Julia http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-85489 Julia Thu, 15 Jul 2010 22:12:35 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-85489 "Because being fat after 30 means only one thing: A lack of discipline. And if I do not have the discipline to take care of myself, where will I find the discipline to do my job well?" I am absolutely TERRIFIED that such ignorance exists. You're saying that fat people can't do their jobs well? WOW. “Because being fat after 30 means only one thing: A lack of discipline. And if I do not have the discipline to take care of myself, where will I find the discipline to do my job well?”

I am absolutely TERRIFIED that such ignorance exists. You’re saying that fat people can’t do their jobs well? WOW.

]]> By: Masamba Zuber http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-77226 Masamba Zuber Tue, 18 Aug 2009 13:51:29 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-77226 Change the fucking background color and text color. Change the fucking background color and text color.

]]> By: FormerlyObeseNowOverweightStillWorkingOnIt http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-59351 FormerlyObeseNowOverweightStillWorkingOnIt Tue, 12 Feb 2008 00:49:33 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-59351 Amen, sister!! Grew up with poor eating habits, fluctuated between 235-275 my whoooole life!! I finally made it under 200 pounds when I got 2 poor 2 eat like a pig, anymore and I LOOOOVE IT!!! NEVER wanna be fat EVER AGAIN!!!!! (or "The Fat Mommy") Amen, sister!!

Grew up with poor eating habits, fluctuated between 235-275 my whoooole life!!

I finally made it under 200 pounds when I got 2 poor 2 eat like a pig, anymore and I LOOOOVE IT!!!

NEVER wanna be fat EVER AGAIN!!!!! (or “The Fat Mommy”)

]]> By: Mer http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-58865 Mer Wed, 30 Jan 2008 19:23:07 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-58865 If the diet industry is a billion plus and growing, obvioulsly there are lots of people who don't want to be fat. Despite the fact that the diet industry is a billion dollars and growing (and has been for years), America is still getting fatter. These two things don't add up. What's going on? If the diet industry is a billion plus and growing, obvioulsly there are lots of people who don’t want to be fat. Despite the fact that the diet industry is a billion dollars and growing (and has been for years), America is still getting fatter.

These two things don’t add up. What’s going on?

]]> By: Adam Robins http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-58842 Adam Robins Wed, 30 Jan 2008 06:38:16 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-58842 email me bitch at adamrobins@hotmail.co.uk hey to add to your discussion i think all fat people should die. they are the spawn of satan and they take all the food from people in need. save africa fat whores. <strong>Now that's just mean. Ok, find Africa on the map for me and we'll talk. ps: did you want to trap my IP? Everyone knows I live in Washington. That's in the US of A...</strong> email me bitch at adamrobins@hotmail.co.uk

hey to add to your discussion i think all fat people should die. they are the spawn of satan and they take all the food from people in need. save africa fat whores.

Now that’s just mean. Ok, find Africa on the map for me and we’ll talk. ps: did you want to trap my IP? Everyone knows I live in Washington. That’s in the US of A…

]]> By: The I’mPerfect Mom » Blog Archive » You really cannot say anything about my weight that can hurt me http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-57432 The I’mPerfect Mom » Blog Archive » You really cannot say anything about my weight that can hurt me Fri, 14 Dec 2007 18:08:30 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-57432 [...] strangers who come to my blog to diss me about my weight should know that I love nothing more than a good [...] [...] strangers who come to my blog to diss me about my weight should know that I love nothing more than a good [...]

]]> By: Adam Robins http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-57424 Adam Robins Fri, 14 Dec 2007 10:10:13 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-57424 Seriously i mean 100kgs!!! how! your fat fat fat. Your like a small car. You'll probably die because you'll have a heart attack because your FAT! <strong>Oh oh, I'd be wounded if only I understood what YOU'RE saying. Learn to speak your own language, kiddo. Go back to school!</strong> Seriously i mean 100kgs!!! how! your fat fat fat. Your like a small car. You’ll probably die because you’ll have a heart attack because your FAT!

Oh oh, I’d be wounded if only I understood what YOU’RE saying. Learn to speak your own language, kiddo. Go back to school!

]]> By: Adam Robins http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-57379 Adam Robins Thu, 13 Dec 2007 00:21:21 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-57379 Haha your still fat! <strong>Sorry to disappoint but I'm not anymore. But <em>you'RE</em> still an idiot. Nothing you can do about that!</strong> Haha your still fat!

Sorry to disappoint but I’m not anymore. But you’RE still an idiot. Nothing you can do about that!

]]> By: Adam Robins http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-57337 Adam Robins Tue, 11 Dec 2007 04:56:50 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-57337 haha your fat! <strong>And you'RE an idiot!</strong> haha your fat!

And you’RE an idiot!

]]> By: Amanda http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-45486 Amanda Sun, 15 Jul 2007 02:01:47 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-45486 thanks for the personal perspective on the subject thanks for the personal perspective on the subject

]]> By: jennemede http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-45465 jennemede Sat, 14 Jul 2007 16:22:00 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-45465 I'm sure you can find more than enough info online, Samoondra. Thanks for the encouragement, guys. I’m sure you can find more than enough info online, Samoondra. Thanks for the encouragement, guys.

]]> By: samoondra http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-after-30-deserve-to-be-judged/comment-page-1#comment-45443 samoondra Sat, 14 Jul 2007 11:49:27 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/07/12/why-fat-people-deserve-to-be-judged/#comment-45443 Do you have anything for underwieght people like me? Would like to read in the other perspective of being underweight as well. However this was a nice one and really enjoyed and realized the consequences of being overweight. Do you have anything for underwieght people like me? Would like to read in the other perspective of being underweight as well. However this was a nice one and really enjoyed and realized the consequences of being overweight.

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