One thing I did not mention about Rae when I wrote about how she was different from me, was that my daughter is also a Really Sore Loser.

It has gotten so bad that these days, she even cheats her way to victory, and no matter how much I try to reason with her, winning remains her ultimate goal in every game she plays. And she will make you rue the day she loses and I mean, kicking-spitting-screaming-The-Exorcist-headspinning rue.

No, I’m kidding. She doesn’t do any of that but she will weep and refuse to play another round.

During our weekly preschool meeting today, I shared this problem with my friend S, a seasoned mom of three. And to my relief (which sounds bad, I know, but it helps to know other people’s kids suck) she told me that her oldest child was that way as well. And what she did was that she created opportunities where her child could ‘practice’ losing by making family game night, three times a week.

“She would refuse to play and I had to make her because it was family game night. And then when she did play, she would taunt the rest of the family, so that we would kick her out so she wouldn’t have to play, and in not playing, she won’t have to risk losing. In the end, I had to make her play through the game. Sorry is a good game to start. And remember, practice makes perfect.”

All I can say is, S is a genius (she said she started her children on Sorry as young as three). Isn’t family game night just the best idea ever?

Thing is, her oldest child is now in her teens, and she still has the problem of not being able to handle defeat. So don’t expect family game night to make the problem go away.

“It just helps her to accept and deal with the fact that you can’t win at everything, but it doesn’t take away their dislike for defeat,” says S.

And here I thought that it was a PreK or at most elementary thing.

Sigh. Well, it doesn’t hurt to try. Good thing I love board games!