Comments on: What makes a marriage work? Watch Desperate Housewives!

By: jennemede

jennemede — Tue, 15 May 2007 14:31:29 +0000

A&a’s mom: Hey did u know u can watch all the episodes at abc.com? Does it work in Msia?

Caprice: I think to expect romantic love to carry a marriage through the years – esp when u hv kids – is a little naive. I think that love keeps changing, growing and shrinking, fluctuating through the years, and the sooner we accept that it takes a lot of sacrifice and work and heartache to keep alive and is not always wine and roses, the sooner we can get on with enjoying the good.

U are right of course about selfish people who refuse to change. Sadly, a lot of such ppl hv kids and the kids are the ones who suffer the most, not the other spouse.

If only there was a device that detects suitability in potential parents…

By: Caprice

Caprice — Tue, 15 May 2007 13:01:27 +0000

Jenn, I think your theory will only work if both parties still love each other. With inconsiderate, selfish characters who refuse to change, it is very easy for that love to wear down over the years, little by little, and the day comes when it is too late, because there is not enough love left for both parties to want to make it work.

What is left then is options. Some have an option to leave, because they are still young and attractive, or have a career to fall back on.

The sad ones are those left without options and end up trapped in a dead marriage.

By: a&a'smom

a&a'smom — Tue, 15 May 2007 08:53:43 +0000

What! Lynette almost have an affair?!!

By: Tracey

Tracey — Sat, 12 May 2007 04:47:46 +0000

It really does take two. And it doesn’t matter how willing one party is when the other isn’t. Especially, when the other can look you in the face and say they don’t love you that way, they are not sure if they ever loved you that way, and they love someone else more than they ever ever loved you. Because when that happens, then I guess there really is nothing to work on saving (but that is just my current experience). I believe as long as both are in it and will do whatever it takes, it can definitely work and maybe even be called “happily ever after.”

By: jennemede

jennemede — Fri, 11 May 2007 09:05:17 +0000

yea it truly does. As I’d mentioned, both parties must be determined to make it work. the maturity needed to overcome selfishness, moments of weakness, moments of poor judgment, is just tremendous. much more so when children are involved. i only hope that if the time comes (i hope a small if), we are able to turn these promises to action.

By: Joanne

Joanne — Fri, 11 May 2007 08:43:36 +0000

Kind of hitting my heart, I hope I’ve matured enough to handle all these, and I’m always willing to work on it, but the old says goes: it’s take two to tango.

I gone through a very painful divorce, last year. The only one I feel sorry about is my two young children. I can only do this much since their father insisted to leave even though I wish to put aside what he had done to me, rather, he jump into another relationship soon after our divorce. Maybe, for him, to start new is better than to reconcile. But for me, I’d rather make the existing marriage works, because if it’s not working for this time, most probably it will not for the next as well.

Again, it’s take two to tango, I can’t do it all by my own. Maybe, only until next time …