Comments on: One more for the list http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/20/one-more-for-the-list Mon, 07 May 2012 19:46:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: On Parenting and Values at Narratives @najahnasseri.org http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/20/one-more-for-the-list/comment-page-1#comment-30271 On Parenting and Values at Narratives @najahnasseri.org Thu, 22 Feb 2007 08:23:20 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/20/one-more-for-the-list/#comment-30271 [...] Children know more than we give them credit for and as a former child myself, I know that the lessons with the most lasting impact were the ones I observed, rather the lectures I used to get as a child - which is why I’m so glad to have the family that I have, who taught me the things that I now know. Being a parent today means taking the bits and pieces that were good about our childhood, and adding on values that may need more emphasis in today’s world. When “face” used to be a big thing in our parents’ generation, a quick survey with other young parents showed that we prefer that humility and honesty precede that Asian concept in our parenting context. I wanted to make a personal list of values that Fische and I will have to “figure out” when it comes to Idris, but Jenne’s list is already quite comprehensive. [...] [...] Children know more than we give them credit for and as a former child myself, I know that the lessons with the most lasting impact were the ones I observed, rather the lectures I used to get as a child – which is why I’m so glad to have the family that I have, who taught me the things that I now know. Being a parent today means taking the bits and pieces that were good about our childhood, and adding on values that may need more emphasis in today’s world. When “face” used to be a big thing in our parents’ generation, a quick survey with other young parents showed that we prefer that humility and honesty precede that Asian concept in our parenting context. I wanted to make a personal list of values that Fische and I will have to “figure out” when it comes to Idris, but Jenne’s list is already quite comprehensive. [...]

]]> By: Kelantan Gal http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/20/one-more-for-the-list/comment-page-1#comment-30248 Kelantan Gal Wed, 21 Feb 2007 16:29:09 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/20/one-more-for-the-list/#comment-30248 Your post hit a nerve. There's a lot expectation that I know how to speak Chinese. I do! But not the same Taiwanese or China Mandarin. Somehow the Chinese I learnt in Malaysia is not the same. If it is any consolation... I went to Chinese school... now what do I use? English. I express myself better in English, even dream in English. And I share your sentiments... I feel Malaysian first. Always have. It is so hard to express that. When I was moving to Canada as an international student, I went to buy some baju kebaya and baju kurung so that I can share my culture. You know what the Malay lady said:"But you are not Malay. Why buy?" And then my Chinese friend said:"Cheongsam not good enough meh? Wait you become Malay then you know." WHAT?!? Your post hit a nerve. There’s a lot expectation that I know how to speak Chinese. I do! But not the same Taiwanese or China Mandarin. Somehow the Chinese I learnt in Malaysia is not the same.

If it is any consolation… I went to Chinese school… now what do I use? English. I express myself better in English, even dream in English.

And I share your sentiments… I feel Malaysian first. Always have. It is so hard to express that. When I was moving to Canada as an international student, I went to buy some baju kebaya and baju kurung so that I can share my culture. You know what the Malay lady said:”But you are not Malay. Why buy?” And then my Chinese friend said:”Cheongsam not good enough meh? Wait you become Malay then you know.” WHAT?!?

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