Comments on: 40% fulfilment is fine by me http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me Sat, 27 Feb 2010 21:21:26 -0700 hourly 1 By: Living in the Gray » Blog Archive » Overtired http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-66435 Living in the Gray » Blog Archive » Overtired Sun, 28 Sep 2008 16:56:03 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-66435 [...] which is my life right now, I offer up some links about motherhood and how sometimes it is not fulfilling and how mommies are often not as cool as we want to be. Tagged: baby, good readin', Kieran, mommy [...] [...] which is my life right now, I offer up some links about motherhood and how sometimes it is not fulfilling and how mommies are often not as cool as we want to be. Tagged: baby, good readin’, Kieran, mommy [...]

]]> By: Lia http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-30226 Lia Wed, 21 Feb 2007 07:54:00 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-30226 I dunno what my fulfillment level could be, I have my monster days, I try and take a break every so often.. I try and earn some income somehow, do my creative stuff too.. I've never really thought about it, I guess I've always thought I'd be at home for my kids, whenever I had them.. (kinda old fashioned these days I guess lol) whatever it is, things will work out for u.. Mums and Guilt are often soooo interlinked, it's not always funny! hang in there girl! I dunno what my fulfillment level could be, I have my monster days, I try and take a break every so often.. I try and earn some income somehow, do my creative stuff too.. I’ve never really thought about it, I guess I’ve always thought I’d be at home for my kids, whenever I had them.. (kinda old fashioned these days I guess lol)

whatever it is, things will work out for u.. Mums and Guilt are often soooo interlinked, it’s not always funny!

hang in there girl!

]]> By: YvonneO http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-30220 YvonneO Wed, 21 Feb 2007 04:00:29 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-30220 Dear Jenn, 40% is fantastic because that's more than what some of us can commit to. I wonder if I'm giving that much - you know, if I could do the math - it's probably not more than 20% to any one given role that I have to play. Mummy, wife, friend, cook, dog-walker, reader, suppresed creative person waiting to break free, and not to forget a working woman! I'm spending my working hours wondering if I could do better? When I go back home and make a nutritious meal for my family, I'm wondering if I should just be ordering pizzas so I can be out of the kitchen, and get the chance to REALLY be with the kids. Then when I'm with the kids, I wonder if I can get anytime for myself. Now, if I can get my bath tub fixed soon, I can have a luxurious soak and start to feel guilty that I have all this time to myself! It's a wicked cycle! But thanks for sharing your days- some of us are not as brave as you -yet! Dear Jenn,
40% is fantastic because that’s more than what some of us can commit to. I wonder if I’m giving that much – you know, if I could do the math – it’s probably not more than 20% to any one given role that I have to play. Mummy, wife, friend, cook, dog-walker, reader, suppresed creative person waiting to break free, and not to forget a working woman!
I’m spending my working hours wondering if I could do better? When I go back home and make a nutritious meal for my family, I’m wondering if I should just be ordering pizzas so I can be out of the kitchen, and get the chance to REALLY be with the kids.
Then when I’m with the kids, I wonder if I can get anytime for myself. Now, if I can get my bath tub fixed soon, I can have a luxurious soak and start to feel guilty that I have all this time to myself! It’s a wicked cycle!
But thanks for sharing your days- some of us are not as brave as you -yet!

]]> By: Erna http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-30218 Erna Wed, 21 Feb 2007 03:38:50 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-30218 As if you need reminding, eh, you were my 'hero' when you were still writing. :D And you're no less of one now for putting your kids first. As if you need reminding, eh, you were my ‘hero’ when you were still writing. :D And you’re no less of one now for putting your kids first.

]]> By: Momma Muse http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-30109 Momma Muse Mon, 19 Feb 2007 01:17:18 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-30109 Jenn, I found your insights on fulfillment interesting--good food for thought. I just started a blog to wrtie about the balance between mothering and working. Checkout my blog (mommamusings.wordpress.com) and let me know what you think. I had to go back to work full time and crash and burn to appreciate some time home with my 2 kids and deal with the less than 100% fulfillment issue. Momma Muse Jenn,
I found your insights on fulfillment interesting–good food for thought. I just started a blog to wrtie about the balance between mothering and working. Checkout my blog (mommamusings.wordpress.com) and let me know what you think. I had to go back to work full time and crash and burn to appreciate some time home with my 2 kids and deal with the less than 100% fulfillment issue.

Momma Muse

]]> By: Anne http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-29766 Anne Sat, 17 Feb 2007 18:48:51 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-29766 Another way to look at it--fulfillment really doesn't have to be the issue, any more than pleasing the mother-in-law has to be the issue. What is important is that you are right now imprinting on your child the basic experience that life works okay for her. Because when she calls you come to her and give her what she is too helpless to get for herself, she's ever so much less likely to spend her teen and adult years looking for the loving support she missed when she was little. That is a huge gift that you are giving her, a huge investment that will pay big dividends in her future. Looked at that way, what you are doing is incredibly important, and the 40% is pure bonus. If she cries, it is because she needs something, and now you are the all powerful one who can make everything be all right. You won't be able to do that much longer--the world will create new problems that you won't be able to, and shouldn't, solve for your child. But because she isn't stuck in old emotions over problems that were never solved when she was helpless, she will be far stronger, and confident, in solving them on her own, as you--of necessity--move over to coaching, and to being her cheering section, more and more. Sounds like you are doing a great job. Another way to look at it–fulfillment really doesn’t have to be the issue, any more than pleasing the mother-in-law has to be the issue. What is important is that you are right now imprinting on your child the basic experience that life works okay for her. Because when she calls you come to her and give her what she is too helpless to get for herself, she’s ever so much less likely to spend her teen and adult years looking for the loving support she missed when she was little. That is a huge gift that you are giving her, a huge investment that will pay big dividends in her future. Looked at that way, what you are doing is incredibly important, and the 40% is pure bonus.
If she cries, it is because she needs something, and now you are the all powerful one who can make everything be all right. You won’t be able to do that much longer–the world will create new problems that you won’t be able to, and shouldn’t, solve for your child. But because she isn’t stuck in old emotions over problems that were never solved when she was helpless, she will be far stronger, and confident, in solving them on her own, as you–of necessity–move over to coaching, and to being her cheering section, more and more.
Sounds like you are doing a great job.

]]> By: Karen http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/comment-page-1#comment-29748 Karen Sat, 17 Feb 2007 11:17:01 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/17/40-fulfilment-is-fine-by-me/#comment-29748 Jenn, you are OK! ............But only 40%, hehe :D Jenn, you are OK! …………But only 40%, hehe :D

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