Comments on: To work or not to work, that’s the question http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question Sat, 27 Feb 2010 21:21:26 -0700 hourly 1 By: tom2000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-69619 tom2000 Wed, 04 Feb 2009 15:22:58 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-69619 I am getting lot of more information... It is really useful for me... I must learn more from this... <a href="http://www.workingmumsuk.com" rel="nofollow"> working mums</a> I am getting lot of more information…
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]]> By: The I’mPerfect Mom » The guilt factor http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-33558 The I’mPerfect Mom » The guilt factor Wed, 21 Mar 2007 22:03:56 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-33558 [...] I’ve blogged about it too. Where I come from, not earning money when you’re educated and have both your hands and your brains intact, when you’re still young, when you’re still strong, is considered irresponsible. [...] [...] I’ve blogged about it too. Where I come from, not earning money when you’re educated and have both your hands and your brains intact, when you’re still young, when you’re still strong, is considered irresponsible. [...]

]]> By: jennemede http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29040 jennemede Tue, 13 Feb 2007 23:05:32 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29040 Kel gal - hey sure. what do u hv in mind? Adrienne, yea he's sweet like that :) Karen, yea it's good to learn such things I guess, even if one is filthy rich. Pelf - yup. I don't want to suddenly realise that I don't know my own children one day. Lia - thanks, hon. You are full of kind words. I think visitng an FP is a good idea! Karli - thanks girl! hugs Kel gal – hey sure. what do u hv in mind?

Adrienne, yea he’s sweet like that :)

Karen, yea it’s good to learn such things I guess, even if one is filthy rich.

Pelf – yup. I don’t want to suddenly realise that I don’t know my own children one day.

Lia – thanks, hon. You are full of kind words. I think visitng an FP is a good idea!

Karli – thanks girl! hugs

]]> By: Kelantan Gal http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29037 Kelantan Gal Tue, 13 Feb 2007 20:31:29 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29037 When I was little, my parents used to "deny" me stuff, not because they couldn't afford it, but because they wanted to teach me the value of money, value of saving for such things. Till this day, even if I really really want something, I think about whether I really need it, whether I can save and buy it later. So if you see it in this light, maybe you won't feel so guilty about not buying Rae a $20 toy. The earlier she knows money doesn't grow on trees, the earlier she will appreciate your sacrifices. On being a SAHM... gosh so much pressure on me too! When I was doing my Masters in the States, people back home would say, study for what, in the end also stay at home and take care of babies! Just marry-lah, no need to waster your parents money. #$%^ In future when I have children I really want to be a SAHM, but it irks me to know that these nay-sayers would have won. I know I shouldn't care what these donkeys say but you know... it's hard to do. On the part-time work, maybe instead of taking time to do techno work, maybe you can go to the library everyday (so that there is no interruption) to work on your writing or comics, and then sell them for something. That can be fruitful too. Have you ever thought of writing children's books? I'm thinking of writing them, maybe we can work together? E-mail me to brainstorm if you're interested :) In the end, do what you think and feel is best for you. Remember that nobody ever said that I wished I had spent more time working... most people on their deathbeds would say I wished I had spent more time with my kids/loved ones. When I was little, my parents used to “deny” me stuff, not because they couldn’t afford it, but because they wanted to teach me the value of money, value of saving for such things. Till this day, even if I really really want something, I think about whether I really need it, whether I can save and buy it later. So if you see it in this light, maybe you won’t feel so guilty about not buying Rae a $20 toy. The earlier she knows money doesn’t grow on trees, the earlier she will appreciate your sacrifices.

On being a SAHM… gosh so much pressure on me too! When I was doing my Masters in the States, people back home would say, study for what, in the end also stay at home and take care of babies! Just marry-lah, no need to waster your parents money. #$%^

In future when I have children I really want to be a SAHM, but it irks me to know that these nay-sayers would have won. I know I shouldn’t care what these donkeys say but you know… it’s hard to do.

On the part-time work, maybe instead of taking time to do techno work, maybe you can go to the library everyday (so that there is no interruption) to work on your writing or comics, and then sell them for something. That can be fruitful too. Have you ever thought of writing children’s books? I’m thinking of writing them, maybe we can work together? E-mail me to brainstorm if you’re interested :)

In the end, do what you think and feel is best for you. Remember that nobody ever said that I wished I had spent more time working… most people on their deathbeds would say I wished I had spent more time with my kids/loved ones.

]]> By: adriene http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29028 adriene Tue, 13 Feb 2007 14:26:04 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29028 i think it's great how supportive lokes is, and how he believes in you :) i think it’s great how supportive lokes is, and how he believes in you :)

]]> By: Financial planning.. earning an income.. the dilemma asian moms face. « A Malaysian Cuddly Family http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29025 Financial planning.. earning an income.. the dilemma asian moms face. « A Malaysian Cuddly Family Tue, 13 Feb 2007 12:43:43 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29025 [...] After talking things over with don, he mentioned Jenn had posted something that concerns us in her blog entry. I don’t mean us as in me or don lah.. It’s an issue that we can relate to definitely. SAHM (stay at home mum) or WAHM (work at home mum) or.. how to generate an income. [...] [...] After talking things over with don, he mentioned Jenn had posted something that concerns us in her blog entry. I don’t mean us as in me or don lah.. It’s an issue that we can relate to definitely. SAHM (stay at home mum) or WAHM (work at home mum) or.. how to generate an income. [...]

]]> By: Karen http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29023 Karen Tue, 13 Feb 2007 10:42:57 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29023 We are kind of in the same boat, in terms of being on tight budget, having to deny kids many material things but we are happy where we are and life is much richer when you are closer to nature. I mean my boys even agree that homegrown and homemade stuff are better than store-bought ones! I must have done a good job brainwashing :) To think that Nicodemus is so excited abt his upcoming b'day party at home where he can only invite 2 friends while his friends have their bash at places like Roller City and Ace Space........he can't wait to help make his own b'day cake, pack the loot bags, plan the menu, have a sneak preview of the games mum's planning.......all experiences that money can't buy. So you aren't bumming around at home.... We are kind of in the same boat, in terms of being on tight budget, having to deny kids many material things but we are happy where we are and life is much richer when you are closer to nature. I mean my boys even agree that homegrown and homemade stuff are better than store-bought ones! I must have done a good job brainwashing :) To think that Nicodemus is so excited abt his upcoming b’day party at home where he can only invite 2 friends while his friends have their bash at places like Roller City and Ace Space……..he can’t wait to help make his own b’day cake, pack the loot bags, plan the menu, have a sneak preview of the games mum’s planning…….all experiences that money can’t buy. So you aren’t bumming around at home….

]]> By: pelf http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29016 pelf Tue, 13 Feb 2007 09:11:19 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29016 I'm not a mom yet, and I know I don't have must say over what you choose to do with your family. But I thought I'd let you know that my sister and I are very close to Mum, even until today, when we're both 20+. We treat Mum like we do friends, I massage your back, you massage mine kind-of-friends. I'm not sure whether this has anything to do with us growing up in a single-parent family, but you really don't wanna miss those "first moments", do you? Good luck :) I’m not a mom yet, and I know I don’t have must say over what you choose to do with your family.

But I thought I’d let you know that my sister and I are very close to Mum, even until today, when we’re both 20+. We treat Mum like we do friends, I massage your back, you massage mine kind-of-friends.

I’m not sure whether this has anything to do with us growing up in a single-parent family, but you really don’t wanna miss those “first moments”, do you?

Good luck :)

]]> By: Lia http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29015 Lia Tue, 13 Feb 2007 08:59:43 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29015 I know how u feel hun. It's been very tough here too and yes I know the asian thing "Hah? u are a SAHM? aiyoo so much free time" "wasting your education by staying home with the kids". I myself feel guilty for "sucking" our money, by not contributing money to the household income. What money I do earn freelance is paltry but something lor, better than nothing. You are a good writer hun, and a survivor. I know you will find the right balance. Today I saw a financial planner, that helped us see things in a different light and where we could save money, consolidate or eradicate our debt etc. Would that be an option for you? You may be surprised in the way u can save the $$.. you wont sell your appmnt back home?Surely there are ways to save and find options? I know how u feel hun. It’s been very tough here too and yes I know the asian thing “Hah? u are a SAHM? aiyoo so much free time” “wasting your education by staying home with the kids”. I myself feel guilty for “sucking” our money, by not contributing money to the household income. What money I do earn freelance is paltry but something lor, better than nothing.

You are a good writer hun, and a survivor. I know you will find the right balance. Today I saw a financial planner, that helped us see things in a different light and where we could save money, consolidate or eradicate our debt etc. Would that be an option for you? You may be surprised in the way u can save the $$..

you wont sell your appmnt back home?Surely there are ways to save and find options?

]]> By: mom on a wire http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/comment-page-1#comment-29011 mom on a wire Tue, 13 Feb 2007 06:56:24 +0000 http://theimperfectmom.com/2007/02/12/to-work-or-not-to-work-thats-the-question/#comment-29011 Your brain amazes me. I love the way you think. This was so interesting to read, and I know you will make the right decision that works for your family. Your brain amazes me. I love the way you think. This was so interesting to read, and I know you will make the right decision that works for your family.

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